How do you feel about that, eh? Is that something you do? Talk to your partner about your cycle? If you don’t, it is something you should get into the habit of. Highly recommend. And I know it can be embarrassing and weird and all sorts of cringe but you know what? It doesn’t have to be. Your menstrual cycle is as natural as you and I and not something that should be hidden away.
Firstly, you are probably wondering why the heck you should talk to someone close to you about your cycle. Well, don’t you want them to know you? Your cycle is a huge part of your life and who you are and what better way to get closer to the ones you care about than to share all of you? And I know you are probably thinking, ‘Happy to share most things but THIS?!’ Yes, my intrepid reader, this. Wouldn’t you want to know how to help someone you love if you saw them curled up on the sofa, in pain? Wouldn’t you want to be able to help and support them? I mean, your menstrual cycle affects A LOT of your day to day life. From your energy levels to how your moods are to what you want to eat. Giving your partner a heads up and some insight is the nice thing to do.
Ok ok, you’ve given me great reasons as to WHY I should do it. Now, TELL ME how to do it. If it feels awkward, embrace it. Practice a few times in front of the mirror. Think about what exactly you want out of the conversation. Is it that you want to have period sex? Or that you want them to leave you alone when you are bleeding? Do you want them to make sure you have ice cream for Day 1 of your winter season? What is it that YOU want? And direct the conversation in that direction. Start simple. Perhaps you start by explaining your experience with your menstrual cycle. Maybe you recount a funny story that happened to you. Start by talking about your first bleed or how your cramps feel like little gremlins dancing every month. The point, sunshine, is to start small. Grow in confidence.
All in all, talking about your menstrual cycle will be good for your relationship. Your partner will know what you are going through and what you need them to do, how they can best support you. And you will feel more confident in yourself, as a menstruator. They will understand your hormones (if you understand them, that is!) and they will start to recognise your ebbs and your flows. And you will feel more at ease when asking them for support.
So tell me, do you already talk to your partner about your cycle or are you going to start?!