In certain (read: a lot) of situations, my go-to emotion is anxiety and overwhelm; though I was once told overwhelm is an emotion you create so the jury is out on that one. But anxiety can have some pretty real bodily manifestations and can make whatever it is you are having anxiety about pretty darn difficult to actually do. I had a bout of it recently and so I thought I’d share some of my go-to tricks to help calm me the f*ck down. It is also worse around certain moments during my cycle but everyone is different and I am still figuring out exactly when my anxiety flairs. You know what I am going to say here-TRACK IT!
- Essential Oils. Always my first go to. I tend to huff Vetiver like it is going out of style (not the nicest of scents for some but I love it and it gives me an instant release of calming endorphins). I always have it with me and if I don’t I have Balance blend which has a very similar effect. These are doTERRA oils, by the way.
- Breathing deeply. Again, I tend to couple this with oils but practising my 5-5-7 breath is major AND something you can do anywhere. Breathe in for a count of 5, hold for a count of 5, and exhale for a count of 7. Do this 10 times and feel an immediate sense of calm come over you.
- Getting out for a walk. If I can manage to get out into nature for a bit, it tends to blow away the cobwebs and I seem to be able to think clearer. If it is warm, I will go barefoot and ground myself in the grass but it is January and bloody cold so just being outdoors will have to suffice!
- Make a list of what needs to be done. That way I don’t feel overwhelmed and anxious about MORE stuff. It is all out on paper and it can get out of my brain and bam, instant relief. I can clearly see what needs to be done and start doing it. I find the more overwhelmed and anxious I am, the foggier my brain.
- Limit coffee and caffeine. As I’ve gotten older (ha! It kills me to say that!) I have noticed that coffee, when I am already anxious, makes it 10x worse. So I limit myself to 2 cups. Water and tea after that.
And there you have it. Things I have learned through the years that help me and help my mind. Also, being kind and gentle with myself when I am having these feelings. I clearly care deeply about whatever it is that is causing the flair and I should be grateful I feel so deeply. It is a gift to feel this way and one that should be cherished and managed. Not shoved down deep inside until you explode. The more you understand yourself and have tools to help you, the more respect you can have yourself and self-love can flourish.